Are you viewing charity the right way? You might be surprised!

“A lot of people say now that business will lift up the developing economies, and that social business will take care of the rest. And I do believe that business will move the great mass of humanity forward. But it always leaves behind that 10%, or more, that is most disadvantaged or unlucky. And social businesses need markets, and there are some issues for which you just can’t develop the kind of money measures that you need for a market. I sit on the board of The Center for the Developmentally Disabled. And these people want laughter, and compassion, and they want love… How do you monetize that?”

Excerpt from: Dan Pallotta;TED Talks: The way we think about charity is dead wrong– watch the talk!

Talk about inspiring! This changes my entire view of charities. Now we just need to spread the word and change how we all view charity, then finally start making some real changes in people’s lives. If you could start any kind of charity, what would yours be for/about?

One Year Down & Going Strong!

Today is my one year anniversary with my gorgeous and amazing boyfriend. I am happy to be sharing my life with him. I’m glad he’s chosen me– I wouldn’t choose anyone else other than him, myself. I love him. This is my first, realserious relationship where this may lead somewhere special. I’d talk more on it right now but- even though we are 2 1/2 hours away from each other- we have celebrated by both getting wasted. Hah.


The Boyfriend & I @ Waffle House

The Boyfriend & I @ Waffle House


I love you. I fucking love you.

What Is This!?

I’m a procrastinator. That’s a fact. Want to know another one? When faced with “stressful” times, I typically shut down. A natural introvert, that gets worst, and I don’t let anyone in- not even my closest loved ones. Definitely not the world-wide-web. It’s something I am actively working on though, with much thanks to my wonderful and supportive boyfriend. He truly is amazing.

What The Hell Am I Talking About!?   Where Is This Going, Skhylar!?

The answer: Fuck if I know 「please forgive my language」

I guess I am trying to explain why I haven’t been blogging… However, the truth of the matter is, is that this is my personal blog- where I don’t advertise or seek out followers- so no one really cares. To me, this is my own little yet public spot of accountability. Err… well, for now at least. Changes will be coming sooner or later. Also, I wanted to jot down the latest changes in my life at this particular moment. Things like:

  1. Moving in with the boyfriend. There’s even more to this but that’ll be saved for another time.
  2. Noa turning 2-years-old on December 28th of this year– 2013! Wow! I can’t believe how fast he is growing! He really is so smart, not to mention absolutely gorgeous. Also, there’s news about Noa as well but, once again, I’m going to save that for a later time.
  3. Adjusting. Coming into our own. Becoming a “Family Unit”, if you will. My love said he was fine with that wording, and that’s all that matters.
  4. Man, so much more… I can’t even think right now.

I apologize for the very poor writing quality of this post- as well as the post before this one, so please have mercy on me, Fellow Literature Lovers of the World.


picture time:



My Noa is staying with his Granna and Granny for a few days. Two and a half hours away, back at home I am. Here, I find myself lying in mine and my boyfriend’s bed wearing only a flowy, draped cover-dress and nothing else. No rushed exits out the room, a woken toddler to tend to- not right now. In one hand, and down my stomach, a deliciously crisp apple- hand delivered by my amazing love; the other my phone and Wi-Fi with Netflix and access to anything else my heart desires. All this while I lie in bed. Pure bliss right now.



Bonnaroo & Teeth

my boyfriend at bonnaroo 2013!

So only went partially well for me this year, my first year. I left the third day in, which was the 2nd day of the actual festival [as they let people arrive a day early this year]. It was, without a doubt, the most mind blowing experience I have ever had. It solidified how much I have changed in just a few short years. It brought me closer to my boyfriend, to feeling more comfortable in our relationship. For a long time, I carried along a lot of baggage from the past- this I have come to realized. It’s time to let all that baggage go, that’s something else I have realized too.

Bonnaroo wasn’t a complete bust. The only thing that really sucked, and I am completely disappointed in myself too, is that I didn’t take a single picture or video while there- not even on the way there! I mean, my phone died right when we got there on the first day- the day before Centeroo even opened- and, Oh my, the heat it was seriously brutal, man. I am so going next year; however, I am going with an RV rental: period. No discussion. Next year, I am going to do things differently. It’s going to be a blast.

Regardless, right now, life is changing faster than I can keep up with. Tomorrow is my oral surgery. Oh, have I not mentioned this? Maybe I should also mention the phobia of dentists and surgery [aka anesthesia]. I am absolutely terrified. And to deal with my nerves- along with Valium [relax! it’s prescribed by the oral surgeon who knows my history]- I am also video taping as much of the process as I can. I got some footage and photos during my consultation. Exciting, I know! Stay tuned for more!

I was so nervous during the consultation. I would only set in the patients’ seat during the two minute examination, where he had to keep telling me to open my mouth. hah. He said, overall, I have good teeth; however [don’t you just hate that word?, my wisdom teeth had to be taken out for them to stay good. Plus, an additional tooth needed to be taken out where my bottom right or left wisdom tooth had essentially attacked and killed the tooth next to it. It’s just a back tooth no one can see, but that would be… weird. Right? To have no tooth where a typical tooth would be. They discussed implants with me very briefly and gave me a pamphlet on teeth implants.

Goes to read pamphlet…

an exray of my jaw... spooky!

Well, they are what they sound like. Implanting faking teeth into your head. However, their advertising was great. Telling you how, when you lose a tooth, 30% of your jaw just disintegrates. How much that will effect you confidence, speech , smile, etc. Yeah, I am pretty sure I want an implant done. I am so very scared right now! I can’t tell you how much I’ve cried over this. I don’t want to be put under, but can’t be awake because I would run out screaming, can’t stand thinking of them working on me, what if something happened? Ah!

As for the moving situation: The first place obviously denied our applications. He never gave us a yes or no, but I saw the place back up on Craig’sList [for $50 more] the other day, so… Yeah… We’ll be looking at new places within the next week to week in a half, depending on how fast I heal. I’ll let you guys know something when I do. More interesting subjects to come later also.

Well, so as not to bore you too much, I must make my exit now. I’m gaining quite the collection of ideas for this blog, or a new blog I might start from scratch with, and I can’t wait to act out all that I have stored in my head. Until next time… バイバイ、みんな!